Thursday, October 16, 2008

New Subject at School: Social Intelligence





Just how difficult is it to walk up to a sexy stranger and start a conversation? Judging by how bizarre some scenarios can get, scoring is, for many people, terrifying just like public speaking, deep sea diving (with unfriendly sharks) or maybe talking a shower in public!

Now, why is that, you suppose? Maybe the problem runs deeper than saying "we're orthodox". Sex education is a zero in India. And yes, we're definitely sorry for the girls who have to deal with lines like, "Hello, I am wanting your phrendship".

Recently, British creativity expert Sir Ken Robinson told a conference in California that "...modern schools are based on an early 19th century model created to churn out workers for industrialism. That's why English and Math are so 'respectable' but not dance or drama (or for that matter, 'how to chat up a chick'!)

So what we are proposing is that kids get schooled in fundamental skills such as 'How to talk to the opposite sex', 'body language and vocal tonality' and even complex subjects for novices such as "Knowing the right time to kiss' and 'Dealing with rejection'.

These subjects should actually be taught at school; the point is teenagers don't learn how to get the women they're aiming for. Everything this far has been about trial and error so imagine if they could study a subject like 'mastering conversation with the opposite sex'! Also, 'How to forge good relationships' and 'Handling intimacy and sex' would be much appreciated.

Social intelligence then is a simple but worthwhile dream; the next generation should be able to make it with the opposite sex without the usual 'tensions'! Eat your heart out CBSE, ICSE and what not!

Love Lost in Translation!





You've felt the effects of love. Lots of hugs and kisses and everything else in between. Then why is it that two people in love rarely hear or understand each other?

Here's an example. Conversation after a date: You say: "I had a great time, should I call you?" She thinks: "He's trying to get rid of me" and says "Yeah, sure. Thanks for tonight. See you soon." You think: "Is she interested or what? Screw it; I'm not going to humiliate myself."

Communication gaps between both sexes has been an issue long unresolved. It accounts for pretty much for all the divorces and serial incidents. Now, a new guide by TV psychologist Dr Linda Papadopoulos effectively titled 'What Men Say, What Women Hear' should set the record straight for both sexes.

Dr Papadopoulos (say that quick!) has researched "manspeak" by analyzing typical conversations between men and women; it has revealed what exactly goes on in a man's head! Women don't exactly escape Linda's astute observations; girls shouldn't think negatively about men when they're actually genuine. Men do not have a pre-rehearsed set of words to say, so it's wrong to prejudge their expectations! Finally, reading Linda's book can help men and women rethink the way they conversations after meeting the parents or at times of emotional unavailability.

Great, Linda is after our own hearts! More information for our lovely ladies... if you're unsure he's interested, the best way is to ask him directly